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When you are going through a relationship break-up you may find yourself in emotional turmoil. Trying to organise finances in these circumstances can seem almost impossible and often there’s no-one to turn to.

There are many things to consider, such as how to register yourself as a single parent, finding appropriate childcare for your children, applying for tax credits, and knowing what you’re entitled to in general. Then there are things like applying for a loan or managing debt.

Learning how to budget is paramount in this situation and vital to your emotional wellbeing.

We have a lot of experience in this area and have learnt how to prioritise finances.

There are 8.8 million people in the UK living with serious debt. Recent figures from the Money Advice Service also showed that of those adults, only 1.5m are seeking debt advice. If you are struggling right now, don’t leave it – seek help now. If you want basic budgeting tips and how to get your finances back into order we can help. MARS also have a lot of experience and are experts in this field. You can find their details below.

Beginners’ guide to managing your money

Money Advice Service

Good money management can mean many things – from living within your means to saving for short and long-term goals, to having a realistic plan to pay off your debts. Read on if you want to learn how to set up a budget, make the most of your money, pay off debts or start saving.


Setting up a budget

Budgeting tips

Make sure you include one-off expenses such as your car tax and Christmas presents in your budget – or tax and National Insurance if you’re self-employed.

If you want to get on top of your finances, a budget is a really good way to start. It’s just a record of money you have coming in (from things like your salary or wages, pensions or benefits) and payments that you make (such as your rent or mortgage, insurance and Council Tax as well as living expenses and regular and irregular spending).

A great way to work out your budget is with our online budget planner. This allows you to record all of your incomings and outgoings. It then analyses and adds up your figures and gives a breakdown of where your spending goes each month across the following broad categories:

  • household bills
  • living costs
  • financial products
  • family and friends
  • travel
  • leisure

You have the option to save your budget planner results and return to update them at any time.

Alternatively you can set a budget up using a spreadsheet on your computer or just write it all down on a piece of paper. Your bank or building society may also give you access to an online budgeting tool which takes information directly from your transactions.

Use our Budget planner


Checking where your money goes

If you’re spending more each month than you are getting as income, the next step is to look more closely at where your money is going and where you can cut back. Even small amounts – for things such as magazines, sandwiches at lunchtime or takeaways – can add up.

Keep a spending diary

Keeping a spending diary is an effective way of seeing exactly what you spend your money on. Try making a note of what you spend for at least a month (including even small purchases). If you can do it for even longer, you’ll get a fuller picture of what you spend your money on.

Once you have a clear picture of where your spending is going use our tips and tools below to see how you can make savings.

Our cut-back calculator will quickly show you how small changes to your day-to-day spending can save you money in the long run. Our ‘Money saving tips’ section has ideas to help you save on utilities, phone bills, travel, shopping and more.

Top tip:

Don’t forget to cancel Direct Debits for subscriptions or policies you no longer want or need.

Use our Cut-back calculator to see where you can make savings


Paying off loans and credit cards

If you have loans or owe money on credit cards it usually makes sense to pay off the debt that charges the highest rate of interest first – it’s the fastest way to clear your debts. Knowing this is useful if you have several different debts charging different rates of interest, such as:

  • store cards, which normally charge the highest rates of interest
  • credit cards
  • personal loans from the bank, which normally charge a lower rate of interest than credit or store cards

It is important to make sure you don’t break the terms of any of your agreements. So even if you’re focusing on paying down another debt, you must pay at least the minimum on any credit cards and your monthly required payments on any loan agreements.

If you’re overwhelmed by your debts

Often, the hardest part of paying off your debts is taking the first step. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed if you know you’re struggling financially. It’s tempting to bury your head in the sand and ignore your bank statements and demands for payment, but it won’t make the problem any better and could make it worse.

So, take a deep breath and open any letters you’ve been ignoring. Once you’ve done this, at least you’ll know what you have to deal with and you can work out what you need to do next.

Getting help if debt problems become serious

If you’ve already missed credit card or loan payments or if you’re behind with so-called ‘priority debts’ such as your rent or mortgage, energy bills, Council Tax, child support or court fines, take advice from a debt advice charity straight away.

Where to go to get free debt advice

Find out more in our guide Quick and easy debt health check

How to prioritise your debts


Set a savings goal

Some people find it hard to get motivated about saving, but it’s often much easier if you set a goal. That way, rather than thinking about the money you are setting aside each month, you can focus on what you will be able to do once you’ve reached your goal.

Your first step is to have some emergency savings – money to fall back on if you have an emergency, such as a heating boiler breakdown or if you couldn’t work for a while. Try and get three months’ worth of expenses in an easy or instant access account. Don’t worry if you can’t save this straight away, but keep it as a target to aim for.

Once you’ve set aside your emergency fund, possible savings goals to consider might include:

  • taking a holiday without having to worry about the bills when you get back
  • having some extra money to draw on while you’re on maternity or paternity leave, or
  • buying a car without taking out a loan

How to set a savings goal

Use our Savings calculator to see how your savings will grow

Save regularly

The easiest way to save is to pay some money into a savings account every month. It’s worth setting up a standing order if you can, so the money goes straight from your bank account without you having to do anything.

It’s a good idea to:

  • pay the money into your savings account as soon as you get paid, rather than at the end of the month
  • increase the amount you save if you get a pay rise or any of your outgoings (such as your mortgage or insurance costs) fall, and
  • check that you are getting a competitive rate of return on your savings

Use our savings comparison table

As your savings start to grow, you should:

  • take stock
  • make an investment plan based on your goals and timeframes, and
  • find the best home for your money in the longer term

Making an investment plan

Investing – beginner’s guide


Take our financial health check

In addition to our budget planner, our online financial health check offers a great way to take stock of your overall financial situation and make the most of your money.

Answer some simple questions and it will give you tailored action plans to help you make the most of your money. It only takes 5-10 minutes and you won’t need any paperwork. So get started now!

Take our financial Health check

This article is provided by the Money Advice Service.